Does your child have behavior problems? Your relationship with your child likely needs some attention? After all, what is the goal when you’re dealing with children? To show who the boss is? To instill fear? Or to help the child develop into a decent, self confident human being? Always remember that a parent’s relationship with his or her child will be reflected in the child’s actions.
The below 5 principles hold true for anyone who deals with children; coach, teacher, babysitter and others. It will surely help you as a parent to become a good and great one.
many parents have problems being consistent with their child according to Steinberg in his new book “The ten basic principles of Good parenting.” Steinberg, PhD, “when parents aren’t consistent, children get confused. You have to force yourself to be consistent.” If you enforce your rule only intermittently or they vary from day to day in an unpredictable fashion, your child’s misbehavior is your fault, not his.
Be involved in your child’s life
being involved does not mean doing a child’s homework, or reading it over or correcting it over or correcting it. Parenting is way too far from that. Being involved in your child’s life means you are (and must be) his/her best trusted friend that he/she can share every secret with. Be there always to listen to your child, be the one to know him/her better. This means you have to sometimes sacrifice your plans to listen to your child. You have to miss quit a number of opportunities as you must sacrifice lots to be there for your child, so always be ready for this part.
Avoid harsh discipline
parents should never hit a child under any circumstances. “Children who are spanked, hit or slapped are more prone to become aggressive and fighting other children.” Steinberg writes. They are more likely to be bullies and more likely to use aggression to solve disputes with others.
Adapt your parenting to fit your child
keep pace with your child’s development. Your child is growing up, consider how age is affecting the child’s behavior. You just have to sometimes forget about yourself entirely, forget what you love, what you hate and everything and focus/shift all to your child. You have to let what drives your child be the one to drive you, adapt completely your parenting lifestyle to fit your child.
Treat your child with respect
“the best way to get respectful treatment from your child is to treat him/her respectfully” Steinberg writes. “you should give your child the same courtesies you would give to anyone else”. Speak to him politely. Respect his/her opinion. Pay attention when he/she is speaking to you. Treat your child kindly. Try to please him/her when you can. Children treat others the way their parents treat them. Your relationship with your child is the foundation for her relationship with others.